I Have Autism…

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Most of you know quite a lot about me over the years from me and my blog being online and my blog being up for 4 years. Yes ok I’ve kept some of it hidden away but then again anyone who’s got something based online like a blog or a YouTube Channel then they would do right. I have been keeping this blog post off for a while now because I wasn’t 100% sure about putting this up. After having the encouragement of talking about my Autism more to my family and friends I thought I’d make this blog post to make Autism more aware to people.

Around about a year ago in December time, I believe I got told I had Autism and at first I didn’t really know what to think about but after sitting down with my mum and dad talking about it I didn’t hide it away as much. After few months and my employer having to be told that I have autism and feeling more confident about it I then decided to tell my friends and thankful some of them have stayed my friends and well some just decided to walk away and well you can kinda say “they are taking out the trash”.

Knowing that I have autism and understanding to why I do things I have learnt to accept it more and you may be thinking what things…well let me explain.

  1. I have to follow a routine – My life is done by a routine inside my head and every day is basically the same and if anything gets changed, moved around or thing seems to be affecting my routine I can get very confused to the point I will just blank everything out around me and try to ignore it until I can finger out what is happening
  2. Things have to be done in a time schedule – Everything has to have a time schedule so if I clean out Kiara my rabbit I will decide what time I’m going to clean her out so lets say I’m going to clean her out at 12:35pm ones the time hits 12:35pm I will start cleaning Kiara out, My friend says to me I’ll be picking you up at 2:40pm then when it hits 2:40pm I hope they turn up and as soon as it hits 2:41pm I start to wonder where are they, how long they gonna be and so on. I don’t spam them with calls haha
  3. Things have to be done in a list – I have a lot of note pads and when I have this thing where everything has to be run by a list even if that is just doing 3 thing it needs to be done in a list. I will try and complete my list too so there is nothing left to do and if a member of my family asks me to do stuff they will send to me by text set as a list so I can understand it better and have a plan in my head.
  4. I don’t like things in my room being moved or touched and I can’t stand people being in my room – My room is always clean and everything has its own little place and if I go into my room I can just look at something and tell someone’s moved it or touched it. You went in my room and moved something even a little tiny bit I know you’d moved it no matter what. As I’ve said I don’t like people in my room the only person I’ll allow in my room is my mum anyone else comes in my room I just ask them kindly to get out. When someone comes into my room I can feel myself getting tight, hot, stressed, annoyed and it feels like my room is getting very small and trust me I have a big bedroom.
  5. Like being on my own – I don’t like being in a big group or being with loads of people if its 1 or 2 people fine I can cope with that but more than that like 3,4 or 5 then no you have no chance in me evening being a part of that group, in fact, I’d do the other thing I’ll just turn around and walk away like I didn’t even know that group was their. If I find myself in a big group I will wait until they are focused or destructed and I will slowly walk off and basically disappear.

There are 3 to 5 levels of autism and to me people who have autism are still people we are still like you and everyone else we just see the world differently to you, we can’t understand body language that well so something to you come across as fine to me or someone else with autism may think you’re trying to be unkind.

That’s the same with when you talk to me or someone with autism we may get it completely wrong for an example if someone said to me “Oh Jack don’t be silly” or “Jack go away” now to you that is you joking around or something but to me or someone else with autism we will think you actually mean go away or you actually mean stop being silly.

When someone shouts “go away” I’m assuming I’ve done something wrong or upset someone so I’ll just stop talking to them and walk away assuming I’ve done something wrong and then a few days or weeks later I’ll get that person asking me why I haven’t been talking to them or I’ll message them asking what it was I did wrong and well 89% of the time I haven’t done anything in fact I didn’t even do anything wrong they were just sad for some reason but down to my autism I just assumed I did something wrong that upset them.


So if you know someone with autism please take the time to try and understand them and as I have said “People with autism are still people and still have feelings the only thing is that we see things differently to you ” and the same with may other things. To anyone who has autism and maybe reading this remember you an amazing person and you are loved by many.


This week I put a picture up on my Instagram page and all it said was “I have autism” and so many of you have left such lovely comments and messaging me and I just want to thank you for all the support it means everything to me and it just reminds me of how lucky I am to have such lovely supportive followers so ones again thank you!

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19 thoughts on “I Have Autism…

    1. Thank you for your comment and I’m so glad you like this blog post. I was very nervous about putting this post up but thankfully to all the wonderful people like yourself I wasn’t nervous about it in the end. Thank you so much for the support and the kind words it means a lot.


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  1. This blog post is amazing Jack, well done and I love it, as you know my partner has autism and he is like you about lists everything, so know what you are like just have never met you.

    Amazing read.
    Carry on with the great work.

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    1. Thank you for your comment and I’m so glad you like this blog. I remember you telling me about your husband and also thank you for your support towards this blog post and your lovely words.


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  2. Jack, love this post. My youngest son has Autism, a bit more affected then you. I was impressed by your words and am looking forward to reading more about you as you continue to blog. You’ve inspired me to add more Autism Awareness to my blog as well. Take care, Debra

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    1. Thank you for your comment Debra and I’m so glad you liked this blog post. I’m so glad this blog post has inspired you to you to add more Autism Awareness on to your blog and I hope your son is well and I wish him all the luck for everything he dose and thank you for your support and kind words


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  3. Jack, this is such a brave post, and I am so glad and proud of you for deciding to share it with the world. What you are doing – raising awareness and helping people understand autism better is so important. I look forward to reading more from you.

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    1. Thank you for your comment Madi and I’m so glad you liked this blog post. Thank you for your lovely kind words and I really do hope that this blog post makes it more wear to people and spared the words. Thank you so much for your support you are amazing


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  4. Fantastic blog post jack you should be so proud of yourself and you are such a wonderful person. I also have autism and this blog post has made me so happy because I felt alone and now I know their more wonderful people like yourself who have autism and I really look up to you Jack

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    1. Thank you for your comment David and I’m so glad you liked this blog post. I am so glad that this blog post has made you so happy and also made you feel less alone and thank you for the lovely kind words


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  5. Jack this is such a fantastic blog post and I loved read this I’m so proud of you and remember you’re such a wonderful person and so many people look up to you

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  6. Jack this is one of the greatest posts I’ve read this year. I’m so proud to call you my friend. You are one of the kindest and most caring guys I know. thank you for always being so supportive I really appreciate it. I like that you always check on how I’m doing it so sweet. I really admire you because you have come to tell us about autism and I feel that it takes a lot of courage to let people into your life completely. I love that you are bringing awareness. You are an amazing guy.

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    1. Thank you for your comment I am so glad you liked this blog post. Thank you so much for the lovely kind words and support towards this blog post I’d also like to add that you are also a lovely kind persona and the support you show to me and other people is amazing you’re a wonderful person.


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